According to Nielsenactivity on both OkCupid and Tinder peaks at 9 pm, and usage starts to rapidly decline after 10 pm. Oprah Talks to Melinda Gates. Awkwardness for guys pays off Strange how in the world of dating we have always been told that self confidence is extremely attractive, but the opposite holds true with regards to online dating. Asian Voices. After a few weeks of dating, C told me, that the day he saw my message, he was on a date with a girl that he met on OkCupid, it was horrible and he was just about to delete his account. This is mind-boggling. From Women!
So while you should avoid using netspeak too much, using slang or an unusual greeting is considered a great move.
If you message first in online dating, you might be punching above your weight